Inner Revolution

February 13, 2011

The day after the people of Egypt pulled off their non-violent revolution last week, I sat with a newly grieving widow as she wondered when, if ever, she would feel whole again.  I recalled an interview I heard on Democracy Now! the day before, in which Amy Goodman asked a long-time human rights activist to what she attributed this miraculous event.  The woman responded that every revolution happens at the perfect time.  In other words, the years of struggle and tears finally ripen into the perfect set of conditions, and we break free from tyranny.

Not that grief is tyrannical (although it certainly can feel that way, can’t it?), nor that we are ever free from its power to transform us, but that there comes a time when we are no longer crushed by sorrow.  We have integrated our loss into the fabric of who we are.  We learn to live with the amputation, finding a new center of balance, standing up on life’s surfboard once again.  An inner revolution takes place, and the timing is perfect.

We all grieve in our own way, following our own mysterious path of the heart.  There is no formula, no timeline, no set of rules about how you or anyone else should move through the mourning process.  Elizabeth Kubler-Ross’ phases of grief (denial & isolation, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance) are helpful signs along the road that help us realize we are not crazy or alone, that many others have traveled this way before us, and survived.  Yet each of us must navigate our own grief odyssey, and the less self-recrimination we foist on ourselves during this painful time, the more fully we will drink of the secret medicine that lies at the heart of our suffering, the truth that sets us free.

 

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3 Responses to “Inner Revolution”

  1. Bob said

    Thank you Mirabai for making this connection between the personal and global. Indeed, we want a product but always we are given a process. As you so aptly remind us the purpose of every wound is to clear a path to the deeper beauty of healing and wholeness. We serve no wine before it’s time. Thanks for holding this mirror before us!

  2. I love the imagery of the wound clearing a path to beauty!

  3. doug said

    If we are lucky, we come full circle in this process; understanding things are exactly as they should be, they always have been.

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